How Do You Recharge? The Myth Behind Introverts and Extroverts

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Hi babes. It’s currently 11:45 in the morning and I’m still on my first cup of coffee. I woke up with so much energy that it almost didn’t feel necessary, which isn’t something that I say often. Perhaps it’s due to the fact that my patio is all set up and I couldn’t wait to lounge on the bed and take in some fresh air, or perhaps it has to do with the fact that I’ve been going to bed at 9:30 every night and waking up at 7? Either way, I like what’s happening here. I’m feeling healthy, centered, grounded.

I’m writing this while I wait for my girlfriend, Denise, to finish up an audition before we go and grab some lunch. I met her on my very first day of college while walking to my acting class (yep, you heard me). This super bubbly blonde bombshell came right up to me on the street and asked if I, too, was going to Claire’s class. When I said I was, she screeched, put her hands on my chest with excitement (in which I laughed out of shock), and I knew we’d be friends forever. She’s one of the most extroverted people that I’ve ever met, and I adore her.

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On that note • How many of you would say that you’re introverted and how many of you would say that you’re extroverted? 

For the longest time, for my whole life really, I’ve been labeled as an extrovert. “You’re so outgoing! You’re not a wallflower in the slightest.” All of that is true. If you take me to a party or an event, I’ll be the first one to go introduce myself to a perfect stranger. I’ll befriend you and probably ask you where you got your top, and knowing me, I’ll follow up and ask you your sign. Mmm hmm, I’m that person.

But what people fail to recognize about introverts vs extroverts is the RECHARGE part of it all.

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When you’re an extrovert, you’re energized by others when you’re feeling depleted. That’s what gives you life. When you’re an introvert, it’s the polar opposite. You need to retreat, go inward, quiet your mind.

Raising my hand so high here.

If I have shoots all day, you better believe my only plans that evening are with my puppy and a good book (or Netflix). If I’ve been with friends all weekend, I’ll retreat to my home for majority of the week except for work commitments. If I’ve had a crazy day of non-stop interaction, my phone will be turned off by 7. I quite literally feel the physical effects of being “on” for too long, and can start to feel myself getting a little spacey and overwhelmed.


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Here are some of my favorite ways to recharge and go inward:

• Reading a good book (I read a lot of spiritual, self help books but have recently been loving getting lost in fiction)

• A glass of red wine

• Sitting outside under twinkle lights

• A hot bath with lavender Epsom salts and bubble bath

• Powering down all electronics and journaling

• Pulling tarot cards

• Cooking a healthy, warm meal (I’m all about anything from this cookbook lately)

What about you? How do you recharge after stimulation?

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Other Noteworthy Things:

• If you’re in Chicago and you’ve always wanted to do a boudoir session, I’ve got the perfect scenario for you. I’m teaming up with my friend Deb who’s a professional hair and makeup artist to host boudoir mini sessions on Sunday, November 18th! Click here and fill out the contact form to find out more information. Only 2 slots left!

• Did you guys catch my healthy trick that I shared yesterday on the blog? If you have trouble sleeping or calming your nervous system, this one’s for you.

• I’m just about finished with my capsule wardrobe and just purchased this coat that I love. My very first teddy. It’s like wearing pajamas.

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