Some thoughts on personal responsibility

Thoughts on Taking Personal Responsibility for Our Lives - The Calm Collective

You know that feeling that you get in your bones when something just feels.. off? Or when you’re participating in something that feels completely forced? Not at all natural?

This is what I refer to as living outside of your alignment. 

As humans, we actually make our lives far more complicated than they need to be. Sure, certain things are out of our control, but so much of what happens in our day to day is completely up to us.

Once you’ve discovered your own personal alignment, you’re far less likely to live in the gray area. The space that’s filled with doubt, insecurity,  pressure and low self worth. 

I’m speaking from personal experience here.

The moment I made the shift and wrote down word for word what my own personal alignment looked like (basically listing out my boundaries, morals and values, and what I need to be the best version of myself each day), I felt a huge shift.

I was taking personal responsibility for myself and my life.

Gone are the days where I blame anyone for my feeling uncomfortable or being in a place or a situation that I don’t want to be in, and where I impulsively say “yes” to plans, and instead offer up “can I think about it and get back to you?” 

In full transparency, this can sometimes feel challenging – especially in the beginning. Having to claim full responsibility for your choices and your actions is a humbling experience, and while it may feel daunting and like you’re clouding yourself with negative thoughts, you’re actually on the path to total self awareness. The more you do this, the more you break old, harmful patterns.

On the flip side, actually finding your personal alignment is far easier than you might think. It’s intuitive work, so it comes naturally. You just have to be willing to listen.

Thoughts on Taking Personal Responsibility for Our Lives - The Calm Collective

Try this:

Simply grab a piece of paper (or type it out in your phone), and list out the things that make you the best version of yourself. You’ll want to be in the right head space or this, so go somewhere that brings you clarity. 

Here are a couple of mine, to give you some examples:

• 8-9 hours of sleep a night (I need a lot of sleep)

• Quiet, slow mornings with no commitments first thing so I can journal

• Some sort of pilates / barre / yoga / stretching

• Making time for meditation

• Getting outside

From there, move into some of your boundaries and values that you’re not willing to compromise on. 

Again, here are a couple of mine to give some examples:

• Using my voice for good. Always coming from a place of love, even when I’m speaking my piece and standing up for what I believe in – and expecting the same from others.

• Allowing only those who keep my vibrations high to hang in my orbit. Whether that’s in the flesh or on social media.

• If it’s not a “hell yes” then it’s a “hell no” – and not feeling the need to explain myself.

I challenge you to discover your personal alignment the moment you click out of this email. Watch what happens when you claim responsibility for who you are, what you need, and what you want your life to look like. 

Because again: while some things in this world are out of our control, how we feel and what we project on to others through our energy, boundaries and our values – that’s entirely up to us.

And that right there, is freedom.

If you’re interested in further guidance on how to connect on a deeper level with your intuition and create your own personal alignment, let me know by clicking the button below. I would love to work with you on this through 1:1 advising sessions. x


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