Happy first of December! It’s wild to think that there’s only 31 days left in this decade (depending on what time/when you’re reading this), and it seems as though anytime you check in on the internet, there’s some sort of graphic or caption asking:
“what are you going to do with only ‘x’ amount of days left in this decade? Make it count!”
Or something of that nature.
If that feels good to you, by all means, ride that wave. But I wanted to take the opportunity to reframe that a bit for people who (like me) are a little turned off from things like resolutions or intense goal setting and cramming a lot within a short amount of time. Or any sort of pressure, really.
Instead, I want to give you permission to take these next 30-ish days as a means to reflect on all that you’ve already done, accomplished, witnessed, explored in this past decade. To celebrate all of it, the good and the not so good. The joy and the discomfort. The progress and the set-backs. All of these things are so detrimental to our growth, and it’s equally as important to reflect, as it is to do and take action.
If there are things that you would like to get done before this year is over, don’t steer clear. Do those things. But consider the reason behind them. Is it because you feel like you HAVE to before 2020 arrives? Is it a psychological game you’re playing with yourself? Are you caving into societal pressures? A deadline you’ve placed on yourself? (I’m so guilty of this from time to time).
Sure, some of us have quarterly deadlines within jobs that we have to meet – I get that, but I’m not so much referring to those circumstances.
Rather the pieces of your life that you’re actually in full control over. How much of that are you really surrendering to? How much of it feels genuinely good? And on the flip side, how much of it feels like shit? Without backlash from other people, what would you let go of? What would you put to rest? How important is it, really, that you do x, y and z within the next 30 days? I say this coming from a familiar place. I myself used to makeup wild reasons as to why I had to do something right then and there, or that if I didn’t get something accomplished before the new year hit, I had failed somehow. That sense of urgency nearly buried me into the ground.
So please consider this as a gentle reminder (to both my old-self and to you, wherever you’re at in this season of life) that it just isn’t true. Where you are is exactly where you need to be. Where you are, is enough. If that looks like a resting state, nurture it. If that looks like a motivated state, embrace it. If that feels like a spiritual or an explorative state, lean into it.
Just listen to your body. What’s making you expand? What’s making you contract?
Try your best to detach from the outside world about what it is that you “should” be doing or feeling in this season of life. Because the truth of the matter is that no one knows the answer to that question better than you.
And spoiler alert: No one ever will.
Enjoy this time, however that looks to you. For me, the next 30 days looks like taking time for some travel, resting by the ocean, watching holiday themed movies, giving myself space to write, to meditate at least 2 times a day, taking on some photo shoots (and also shooting just for myself), to start recording for the upcoming 3rd season of the podcast, and to take care of my body.
So for me, there’s still some work in there alongside my rest and rebooting – I’m writing and recording and I’ll still be shooting here and there, but there’s freedom in that. I’m not giving myself a deadline that by January 1st I’ll have x amount of things accomplished. I’m just doing what feels good to me right now, in this moment.
I hope this helps and simply serves as a different approach to the new decade approaching. Be gentle and soft with yourself – you are a living, breathing thing. Allow yourself to reboot in whatever way that looks and feels best for you.
As always, if you want to chat about this subject further or have any questions/comments, feel free to leave a comment below or you can always email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.