How do you handle rejection? Actually, wait. Let’s put a pin in that.
How do you define rejection?
It’s a sensitive trigger word – at times carrying a LOT of pain, embarrassment and self worth along with it, which often times can lead you wanting to get into the fetal position, under covers, with ice cream.
I get it. We’ve all been there.
I’ll go first. If I had to define the word rejection, it would be this:
You are not for everyone.
I didn’t always claim this as my definition. Quite the opposite! It’s taken time, a ton of self love, a lot of internal conversations, some major healing, and a pile of completely full journals.
Rejection to me is merely an aggressive way of saying “missed or lack of connection”. When you look at it that way, when you stop creating the story that rejection has something to do with the way you look, the opinions you have, the life you’ve built, the religion you practice or the way your body is shaped – it becomes something so much more powerful and out of your control. Connections can’t be controlled. You can’t make someone’s energy fall in line with yours, and you know what? Thank goodness.
Imagine if you never faced rejection – if you connected with every single person that you came into contact with.
• Where are the lessons in that? Trick question: there are none.
• You would be utterly exhausted and stretched so thin if a connection was made with every single person that peaked your interest.
The simple truth is that you, me, we are not for everyone.
And that’s what makes being human so exhilarating.
Each day when you wake up and walk out your door, you never know who you’re going to meet. You never know what someone might teach you. You never know what someone’s “rejection” will show you about yourself, or what your “rejection” of someone may show you about yourself.
Open yourself up to the possibility that rejection doesn’t exist.
That it all comes down to a matter of connection, and that we are not for everyone.
Again, thank goodness.2